Sorry if this is going to be long.. My dad passed away in 2012 and did have Aid and Attendance which paid for his nursing home care in a Veteran's home in Texas. We were very grateful for the care and pension. Applied for mom to receive Death Pension benefits or Aid in Attendance in Feb 2015. She was also diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. She has lived with me and my husband since 2008. Since then she has had Breast cancer, low sodium and recently a pacemaker. At the time in 2015, we did have someone come to the house to assist her. She decided she wasn't ready to have someone all the time and when I received the letter from the VA wanting the Form 21-0518-1 (Eligibility Verification report), form 21-8416 (Medical Expense Report) and Care Expense Report, I didn't do anything about it. So she was denied a reopened Death Pension benefits. Now I'm assisting her with showers and have friends "babysitting" her when I'm away for the day in the summer(I'm a teacher so I'm off). I know that soon I will not longer be able to care for her. Please don't judge as I am considering placing her in assisted living. We did go to one place to "look" and she loved it. problem is that it's $3000. a month and she only has $2500. all burial is prepaid, no property, insurance paid up and only receives SS($1370.). I applied for STAR PLUS medicaid wavier and she was $500 over the $2000. income limit, for someone to come to the house. We have to wait til Dec. to reapply. She also has very good medical insurance and hardly no prescription cost. Any suggestions? Was I supposed to resend the Eligibility Verification Report? Thank you for this website as I have referenced to it many times over the last years.