First of all, I need to thank Debbie and this site because without all the help and information and forms I rec'd here this would be an almost impossible task. I am going to list everything I did to apply for the Aid and Attendance Allowance because today we received absolutely wonderful news! My Mom has been approved for the benefit and we will receive a confirming letter in one week. I am going to share our experience just in case I can make this whole arduous and complicated process just a tiny bit easier for even one person. Here is our situation briefly. My Mom is 83 years old and while not suffering from dementia, is housebound, incontinent and unable to care for herself anymore after being self-sufficient and active until just a couple of months ago when she became very ill and ended up in the hospital. In late July we moved her out of her apartment of 26 years and moved her in with my brother and sister-in-law. We have had to hire an home health-care service to come in three times a week to assist in her care as she can no long bathe herself and all of us work full-time. My Dad, who had Altzheimer's and passed away seven years ago was a WWII veteran (Navy Seabee). My Mom has almost no assets and is living on Social Security. I will list exactly what I did because I know I had many questions when I filed the application. This is our timeline: I think we are one of the lucky ones, but I really believe one of the tricks here is to be organized and make it easy for them to digest your information and have it as complete as possible. 7/31/2008 - I mailed, by certfied mail, the completed package to the Department of Veterans Affairs in San Diego. 8/8/2008 - We received a confirming letter that the package had been rec'd. 9/8/2008 - I rec'd a phone call from a VA representative asking to confirm a couple of things. I referred the call to my brother and SIL who called the VA back today. 9/9/2008 - We were told that my Mom is eligible for the benefit and wouild receive even more money than we thought because things like Depends, Boost meal supplements are allow considered legitimate deductions against her countable income. We are on Cloud nine because the cost of home care alone exceeded my Mom's meager Social Security income. I will post the final dollar amounts of her benefits next week when we receive the letter because I don't know exactly what they are. This is exactly how I filed her application. 1. I included a cover letter with the application. (See Below as to what my cover letter said.) 2. I put all the forms and documents in a small 3-ring notebook and included dividers for each section. 3. I made copies of the entire application and supporting documentation for myself. Below is what I put in the cover letter. Included in this letter is a list of all the forms and documentation I included with the application (and the order I included them in.) The only questions they asked me were about her medical expenses and they actually added to my list of eligible expenses towars her countable income. (Depends and Booth energy drink.) As soon as I know what her benefit is going to be, I will post the information here. Good luck to everyone!