Hello, I have never posted before but I read for advice a lot since August of 2009 when beginning this whole process of Aid and Attendance began. My father is 90 and has congestive heart failure and dementia and lives with me I am his 24 hr a day 7 day a week caregiver. After a year and a half of being put through hell by the VA they call and give me 24 hrs notice that they are coming here tomorrow to quote go ever my fathers entire financial records and make me account for every dime of his money. He said I have to have a background check and credit check and he wants to see bank statements and lists of assets (which he has none of) and I feel like I am on trial. This man said this money is not for you to spend or divide up among your family members it is for the care of the veteran. I said I make sure my father has everything he needs and I take excellent care of him the only one who neglects him is the VA! Is this normal? Is there any advice you can give me? My father has way more going out than he does coming in and I have given up my whole life to care for him to keep him out of a nursing home and give him the proper care that he needs. I devote my life to him and I feel like these people have kept his lump sum so they can draw interest on it and they havent cared what he has had to go without while they kept his money. I am just so upset by all this. I waited so long for this to happen and now that it has its even worse than the process was.