We've just placed my mother in a dementia unit at an Assisted Living facility and we were advised she might be eligible for Aid and Attendance since my father was in the Army during the Korean Conflict. He is still living, has remarried and has assets exceeding the limits and is not collecting any sort of assistance from the VA. She has never remarried and has limited assets which will be exhausted within a few months. I have seen a couple of notes on the site and in the forums referencing that she might be eligible since her divorce decree states mental cruelty. (Hers states "on the grounds of cruel and inhuman treatment.") I should note that this continues to this day (39 years later) as he refuses to provide me with his discharge papers if I need them for this application. I've also noted that none of the forms have any slots for information regarding the divorced spouse making the filing and it appears that most forms assume that the Vet is deceased so I guess that's why I've seen the comments to "Call the VA" to find out what to do. I have my mother's DPOA but I've seen that the VA doesn't recognize this. Any advice on whether I should call a center near her or can I go to the one nearest me? (I live 850 miles from her.) Any info/guidance/experience very much appreciated.