I am just beginning this journey. So far I have determined my father ,the veteran , was in the service during wartime. My question is about which angle to take as far as their divorce. They were divorced after 25 years of marriage in 1979. The reason...Gross Neglect/Extreme Cruelty. Several months after the divorce my dad came home and they lived as a happily married couple until his death in 2003. Go figure! Mom is listed on the death certificate as surviving spouse and receives his pension from a civilian job. Mom has dementia and needs to enter a nursing home. I was going to make a case for common law marriage because in Ohio common law marriages entered into prior to 1991 are recognized. However.. I have read that A&A is sometimes given in spite of a divorce if the grounds for that divorce was Gross Neglect/Extreme Cruelty. Advice? Should I try to get this benefit for her or do you think it would be a waste of time.