Hi everyone. I'm new here, new to all of this, confused, etc. and can't find the answer to what I'm asking. Please help. My father is an Army Veteran who served in the Korean War for 2 years. He is 86. My mother is 85, broke her pelvis a month ago and has been in a nursing home "temporarily" for rehabilitation since early Feb. She's (thank God) recovering slowly but it's looking like when she's completed therapy, she will most likely be going to a permanent personal care home or assisted living. There's no way my Dad can take care of her. He's in frail health himself (he can still drive, do minor day to day tasks but it's not easy for him). I live in another state (doing whatever I can to figure out how I can move back to take care of my parents). My Dad receives NO veterans benefits. From looking at the info on this site, I discovered that the gov't considers wartime veterans "disabled" if they are over 65. This is where I get lost. I have all the info regarding filing for the Aid and Attendance (A&A) Pension, what forms are needed, etc. What I'm not able to figure out: 1) Is the AA benefit ONLY for him and not applicable to my mother? She is the one who cannot dress, bathe, care for herself. He's able to care for himself but barely -- and it's not getting any better. He's most likely going to need to be in assisted living in the next few years as well. 2) If my mother's present condition "qualifies," as far as the AA benefit is concerned, is it only if he's deceased? 3) Am I completely barking up the wrong tree, or going after the wrong Veterans Benefit since he's 86 and hasn't received ANY VA benefits EVER? I mean, should he/we be applying for something else instead? Much thanks in advance.