We just got notice that my dear veteran father was approved for the max A&A benefit. From application to approval took about 11 weeks (with a little hiccup along the way--the VA required clarification). The St Paul center processed the application. My father has dementia, so we now turn to the FIDUCIARY issue. I've been so fixated on the application, I hadn't thought much about it until now. I did a search here and on the VA website, but I still have some questions: (1) I've come across the recommended language to submit on a 21-4138 to start the process ("Please be advised that (parent's name) and I have no issue with the VA finding of incompetence...."). But to clarify: whose "voice" is this? The language indicates it's the proposed fiduciary, but I understand it's the beneficiary (my dad) who signs it??? Or do both parties sign it? (2) Is it recommended that the fiduciary live in the same state as the beneficiary? My sister lives in the same state, but I do not. (3) I believe a felony conviction & a bankruptcy disqualify a fiduciary (understandably!). But how about more minor things? (examples: being late with a bill payment, or carrying "X" amount as credit card debt, etc...). (4) Any guidance on how much notice you get re the scheduling of the field interview with the VA rep? A month? A day? Hours? (5) Is it recommended (or even required) that the custodial account be dedicated SOLELY to the A&A money? Or can we consolidate things by having one account? I'm sure I'll think of other things later. Thank you so much to the creator and moderators of this site--I could NOT be doing any of this without you!