I am trying to find help for my parents. My father is a WWII veteran (87 years old and in failing health) and is currently the primary care-giver for my mother who has advanced alzheimer's disease. Her level of care far exceeds my father's ability, but he cannot afford to put her into a nursing home. He cannot qualify for medicaid because he owns a farm which has been in the family for generations as well as his home. He would like to put the farm in a trust, but the "look back" time for medicaid would be a problem. My questions is this; can he qualify for aid and attendance when it is his spouse who needs the nursing home? All I see in the examples is if the veteran or the "surviving" spouse needs the nursing home. BTW, my father really needs assistance too, but he doesn't want to admit it. He has congestive heart failure.