My mom was advised to convert her assets into an irrevocable trust in order to qualify my father for the VA Aid and Attendance benefit. Is this legal? Could I (her daughter) be the trustee? What are the drawbacks? My father is being placed in a dementia care facility at a cost of $5,000 per month, and Mom doesn't want to spend all of their savings. She is looking at assisted living for herself in the not-too-distant future.