We've waited 13 months for the VA Aid and Attendance. It's been one thing after another. I'm so glad I had a copy of everything I brought down and had it stamped. Anyways, we're down to the part prior to approval. My mother has dementia but an IQ of 95. She's been in a private pay ALF for almost 3 years. She ran out of her money in January and my husband and myself took out a second mortgage and have been paying the extra $2,200 a month. You mentioned in another post about a fidicuiary and a physician's statement. Is there a certain statement that the VA provides? When I had supplied all the medical evidence 8 months ago; the VA then requested it could only be on their VA form. They sent it to me 11 months into the process. My mother has signed a lot of the letters and her medical records document her IQ of 95. My husband and myself are going out of our minds with the financial burden. I just can't afford any more delays. Is there a special form that I should ask for? I'm almost afraid to or they will delay it no matter what. Or should I just receive a statement from her doctor now or wait for approval? Any and all information you could provide would be so appreciated. I am so tired of being so scared. Respectfully, Ann K.