Hello all. I'm so glad to have found this forum because I am really lost. To summarize: My grandfather is living alone in Ft. Myers, FL., in a house he owns. He's no longer suited to living alone. A host of chronic illnesses are making it dangerous. He's 89 and just old and confused and can't take care of himself. He has a military pension and SS which adds up to almost $1300/month. He has a mortgage on his home and some other loans and debts. He also has at least one investment, but I'm not sure of it's value (US Steel.) He wants to come to Tennessee to live in an assisted living facility near me. That's fine, but I don't know even the FIRST STEP to take. I have all the forms that I downloaded from VetAssist and some information from him. But I'm stuck on the first question - which is "do you have a claim with the VA?" Is that the same as a patient ID number or something? He is eligible for medical care through the VA due to income and years of service. He is NOT service connected. In no particular order: Do I file the A&A claim up here in Tennessee? How do I sell his house (we need the proceeds from it to supplement his living expenses) before I get him settled in a nursing home? Do nursing homes work with A&A people in conjunction with me? I guess I don't even know what else to ask. I think I just need someone to point me in the right direction and give me a kick in the pants. I'm the only person working on this project, and we're in the middle of buying a house and moving, and I'm home with a toddler alone. I'm completely befuddled and frustrated already and I haven't even begun. Thanks for any advice you can offer.