My story began in 2007 when several of my younger siblings decided that they needed my mother’s resources more than she did. During a 30 time frame when we were all supposed to be working to get home assistance and care for our mother they managed to empty her bank account, steal her car, dispose of much of her personal belongs, divert her pension and social security checks and make arrangements to have her committed to a “facility” out of state. My daughter planned a visit to her home during Spring Break and happened to show up on the day before she was being removed from the state and contacted me in a state of hysteria. The short version is that my older brother and I managed to thwart the plan, got her an attorney and had her restored to her home but most of her savings has never been recovered. She continued to live in her home for the next three years with daily assistance until she began to forget it was her home and we made arrangements to move her to a wonderful place in the Tucson area designed specifically for folks like mom. After about two weeks she settled in and has been very happy and remains active and involved to the extent she can. The community is designed with memory care involved and she can move about freely 24/7 which I’ve come to know is a big deal with dementia and Alzheimer’s patients. Her doctors visit her on site, she has a beauty parlor on site and if she wants her coffee at 2 in the morning – not a problem. In any case, her earlier financial loss hurt her and my older brother and I kick in every month just to keep her bank account even. When she was first moved I was told about A & A and worked it for about 6 months ---- getting nowhere. Her costs are increasing steadily and my brother and I are almost at our limit but I remain steadfast in keeping her where she is because she has been so content and so well cared for I am scared to shake up her routine yet again. I did not realize the gifts my parents gave me until I was grown but as a child I never remember being afraid or worried and while I’m sure they had their challenges with six children – they made sure I remained a child for as long as possible free from the financial concerns of the times. It truly was a gift as I look around at some families today and all I want is to give back a little of what was given to us. She kept us safe, well fed and clothed and she is my mom. My father passed away 30 years ago. Mom never remarried and inherited his pension and medical coverage. He was in the Navy, having been discharged in 1950 but re-enlisted in the reserves and joined the Coast Guard in 1952. I spend most of my time worrying now that she will no longer be able to afford her new home and thought it might be time to try the A & A again. After the attempt to steal her assets the local judge determined that mom needed a guardian to protect her and asked me if I would consider it. I told him he better ask mom. Mom made it clear that it would be ok, but that I was in on a “pass” only and was not going to be “telling her what to do”. I agreed to her terms and we’ve lived by them ever since. She’s still in control as befits a mom. So, I am about to begin the journey again. I never got a bit of information from the VA and though I got an authorization form from our State Senator, I never heard back again. In our particular case a small amount of additional income would make all the difference. Her entire pension goes toward her care and her only remaining asset is her home so we don’t have an income issue. Any suggestions help or words of encouragement are welcome.