My Mom was in the Army, released medically discharged because of epilepsy. She draws a pension, she never went to the clinic for care. Now she is 87 yrs old has alzheimer's, heart attacks and more ongoing problems, caring for her at our home. So I have applied for A & A, they want me to bring her on a two hour drive for an mental evaluation. She is not mentally up to a two hour car ride and told me if I don't bring her they will close application. I have filled out all the forms, had her pcp fill out paperwork, what else do they want from us? It is just my husband and I carrying for her. We know we can't go on like this, burning out. Should I have her drugged for this trip or just tell them to forget it??