Hello! This is my first post. I have a question about whether a veteran can pay a family member to provide personal care services (aid & attendance) and if these payments can be used to offset the veterans income to qualify for the aid & attendance pension. Here is our situation (I will put in outline form for brevity): - My mother is a vet from WWII (Navy) and she is in her 80's - She has Alzheimer's and needs help with daily living activities - I am her Power of Attorney for Finances - She lived with my wife & I (in our home) until Oct. last year - I applied for VA Pension & A&A for her last Nov.; at that time she was living in an assisted living facility - Due to poor care, we moved her to another assisted living facility - Due to poor care in the 2nd facility, we have brought her back home with us this month - I just received notice from the VA that she has been approved for pension & Aid & Attendance (no info on benefit amount) - The monthly payments to both assisted living facilities took ALL of her monthly income (my brother & I paid the balance); so my understanding is that she would qualify for the maximum A&A payment during the time she was there. My question is, if my mother pays us (my wife and I) for the exact same care that she was supposed to get at the assisted living facilities, will the VA allow this to offset her income so that she qualifies for A&A payments? Also, what about room & board? Can she pay us for this and it also be allowed to reduce her income? Any help with this would be greatly appreciated. Also, are there any regulations that discuss exactly what expenses are deductible from income? Thanks!