My dad and mom live with me and I care for both of them. Is it in my best interest when applying for A&A for my dad who is 90 and needs daily care, to count spouse as dependent or can you apply as just a veteran for A&A ? My mom has beginning signs of dementia. Thanks for the site and for all you do! He gets about 1200 in SS and she gets around $650 in SS that we use for caretaking expenses for my dad.