I am Trying to finish preparing to do the initial filing for Aid and Attendance for my mom. She is the surviving spouse of a wartime veteran.The nursing home statement was completed by their Dr. showing Mom incompetent to handle her own affairs. I am filling out a 21-0845 and will have her sign it as I have all other forms that asked for her signature. Here is my question. Since the nursing home form shows that she is incompetent, will they still contact me regarding the need to appoint a fiduciary ? Seems like a catch 22 that she is incompetent to handle her affairs yet they can not contact me about her application since they need permission to release info about her to a third party. Thanks so much for your help!! I would not be this far along without your website.