So we had our fiduciary interviews today and all went well. Here's how our process went: On May 28 2010 I faxed a 21-4138 Statement in Support of Claim to the VA from my Mom, the Veteran, waiving the 60 day waiting period for a finding of incompetence and all due process including the Brady Act. I also mailed a copy with return receipt. In a month, I called to ask about progress. I was told it could take up to 16 weeks to complete but since my Mom had asked for me to be fiduciary, they would only appoint someone else if I were denied. Yesterday (one day short of 16 weeks) I received a call from a VA representative telling me that he would be in my city today and could interview me and my mother.
It really wasn't bad. We met with the VA rep at the Assisted Living Facility (ALF) and he chatted companionably for a few minutes with my mother and observed her dementia by asking a few simple questions "what year is it?", "Who is the President of the U.S.?", "What day is it". She missed two out of three. My Mom went to lunch and he and I sat down to do paperwork. I signed a Fiduciary Agreement (Form 21-4703) and a Fiduciary Statement in Support of Appointment (Form 21-0792). I showed him her latest bank statement, living trust account statement and we went over her monthly income and medical costs. Basically, I reiterated what I had put down on the Form 21-526 application. Two people at the ALF provided a verbal character reference and we were done. I will have to open a custodial bank account and submit a one-time accounting to the VA of how the funds are spent in about a year.
I should get some acknowledgment from the VA by Nov. 1st and a copy of all the paperwork. I asked for a copy of all papers that I signed from the VA Rep before he left. All in all, I thought it was very reasonable considering that they are willing to send her checks.