Ok I saw something in my studies. Check this out, as I am in the same boat as you. Your husband can sign a contract with you that pays you $2000 (or whatever) per month for personal care. You may have to pay taxes, but its worth it if it allows you to care for your spouse.
Planning Tip #4
Another unreimbursed expense that is permissible to reduce income is payment made to a family member pursuant to a “family services contract” or an “independent contractors” contract, for the payment of services to care for the person. The VA is scrutinizing these contracts now, thus, it is important to be able to verify the actual payments made to the caregiver.
Also, keep in mind there are other items you can claim as expenses. I know I will be using acupuncture and chiropractic and other items in the near future, but check this stuff out for yourself.
Listing of Possible Medical Expenses
Revised August 24, 2007
These can be deducted form your gross income to determine VA benefit eligibility.
Medicare Premiums deducted Hearing aids & batteries Psychologist
from Social Security
Home health services Psychotherapy
insurance(Part B)under Medicare Hospital expenses Radium therapy
Abdominal supports Insulin Treatment Sacroiliac belt
Acupuncture service Insurance premiums (medical) Seeing-eye dog
Ambulance hire Invalid chair Speech therapist
Anesthetist Lab tests Splints
Arch supports Lip reading lessons (in Surgeon
connection with disability)
Artificial limbs Telephone/teletype (for
Nursing services Transportation expenses
Braces (20 cents per mile)
Chiropodist Vitamins Dr. Prescribed
Convalescent home (for Whirlpool baths for
medical treatment only) Oral surgery medical purposes
Crutches Osteopath X rays
Dental services Pediatrician
Dentures Physical examinations Note: Most medical
expenses must be pre-
Dermatologist Physician scribed by a physician
to be deductible from
Eyeglasses Physical Therapy gross income for VA
Food or beverages prescribed by Podiatrist purposes.
Dr. for treatment of illness
Prescriptions and drugs
Hope this helps.