Hi. I’ve been reading on your site about A & A claims and procedures. My mom is a surviving spouse with dr. documented dementia, diabetes, renal disease & high blood pressure.. The claim we sent in was approved back in Sept. of ‘07 fairly quickly since everything they needed was sent in from the getgo. The letter said she is approved for the $976 effective Sept. 14 but was being withheld due to incompetency and that they propose a fiduciary. It said she had 60 days to contest it. So I thought we had to wait out the 60 days to show she wouldn’t. She has been living with me since her stroke in ’03 and I take care of everything 24/7. I am her POA and also Rep Payee for her SS. She receives SS and a small pension monthly of which is used to help with the utility bills and groceries plus her med. bills and personal needs. My husband doesn’t make a lot and so I have no choice but to have her $ help towards everyday living expenses. Back when they were considering her claim a VA rep had called to ask what I charge her like rent and stuff. She used an example like what a nursing home would charge a month. I told her I just use her $ to help on bills and groceries and that she is my mom and I don’t charge rent. So around Feb. 28th I called their 800# and had to have mom okay them to talk to me and then spoke to someone and they said that we should have had a fiduciary field rep come out and see us a month ago! So they put in a request to forward this case to that dept. and if we don’t hear anything within a month, call back. So does that statement indicate they are considering me as her fiduciary? Back at the beginning of process the local VA office had us fill a form for the local VFW to be her representative to fight for any issues. I wasn’t told I could fill out a rep form but had submitted a letter with app requesting to be her representative on her benefits since I take care of her. I guess my question is, should I be going thru the VFW to get answers/help? I called again March 31st and was told the system is bogged down with many cases and it is just a slow process. What exactly does this fudciary interview consist of? I found on my own, a formal form to be a fiduciary but never filled one out. The VA rep I talked to never mentioned it as a requirement. This is all so nerve wracking when one is in the dark about this procedure or that procedure.. I didn’t even know there was such a benefit for VA spouses til I had ran across an elderly care lawyer website that said there was such a benefit. That is when I made an appt. with them and they explained it and had given me some forms. The VA rep said there is nothing more to do on my part except to wait to hear from them. I just want to be prepared so that this can come to a completion. Thank you in advance for a response and for having such a website as this!