Thanks for your reply. I could not see the attached form but found it at
http://veteranaid.org/help.php.
I have been crunching the numbers and the cost of adding the services would be over 2K a month. If we signed up for the additional services and applied for the Aid and Assistance, we would have bill which we would need to service. If Dad died in in two months time, prior to receiving approval, would those costs be covered?
Funding the additional services will probably be done through a mixture of relatives and siblings. I need to know whether I can say to them, you WILL have this money back, or you MIGHT have this back. :-) I don't want to mislead them.
Ironically, if Dad went back into skilled nursing care in a nursing home, it would cost 8K a month