#1 Please see this posting which will help to answer #1 & # 3
http://veteranaid.org/forums/index.php/topic,841.msg2978.html#msg2978#2 You can use the form the ALF gave you, which should be a Statement of Occupancy
#3 Above link
#4 The checklist is no longer available, but you can look on the site for a list of necessary documents
#5 No on the funeral costs
#6
Do not send 21-22a. Only include the 21-0845. If the VA finds incompetency, then you can do the 21-22a along with your request to be appointed as Fiduciary.
Good luck & keep us posted.